Frequency of authenticity
Have you ever met someone a few times and just never taken to them? There doesn’t seem to be an obvious reason, just something you can’t quite put your finger on. They seem great! Perhaps they’re confident, intelligent, friendly and seemingly open and you recognise they very much appear similar to yourself, but something doesn’t quite add up.
You check in with your self-awareness. There isn’t anything that you’re aware of which poses an immediate threat. You don’t feel your vulnerabilities or your competitive streak surfacing, in fact, quite the opposite, you find yourself engaging with a disconnection. The engagement feels more like curiosity and intrigue as you lean in to the uncomfortable and try to discover what’s here for you.
And with time, complacency, alcohol or anything else that allows the veil to slip, the truth starts to appear.
What was presented to you at surface is not who they are.
Or perhaps it was you. You really wanted that career opportunity so fabricated a few "new" skills, forgetting the impending anxiety when you might be asked to offer your ‘expertise’ in a field that you haven’t yet had the opportunity to study or master. You were so eager to connect in that networking opportunity, that you unconsciously mirrored the other and couldn’t understand why the person seemed to retreat more than advance. Maybe you wanted to close that deal so badly, which would mean hitting this month’s bonus in the higher threshold, that you hadn’t anticipated the lack of transparency to your client. The mis-leading information will be coming back to impact you in the near future and the quality of service your company provides. This can lead to an indent in your personal reputation and impact on your mental wellbeing.
‘Fake it ‘til you make it!’ They said.
But what happens if you don’t make it because you faked it?
In sales, the term ‘people buy from people’ is one of the most common phrases used. We all know what it feels like to have purchased an item on captivating words and bedazzling demo pictures. You then receive an item that falls extremely short of our expectations and leaves lingering feelings of deceit and betrayal, you feel duped.
It is believed, that through measuring emotions with SPANE (Scale of positive and negative experience), Authenticity vibrated at a frequency 4 times greater than love. Even if you question the accuracy of this model, I would ask you to question yourself, would you deny your own feelings and experience?
The truth is when you project a frequency you aren’t vibrating at, you lose the power of authenticity and the unique characteristics that make you, you. Whether it’s because of judgement, fear or ego, it can be a great hindrance. This can cause a lot of emotional distress, challenges and problems for you.
Acting from a place of negative thoughts and feelings about yourself, is the most common reason why anyone would ‘act out’ this false confidence. The truth is, we have all done it at least once in our lives. Who knows, it may have helped you at that point. However, as we move forward and those feelings of ‘imposter syndrome’ creep in, we start to feel ourselves shrinking in amongst our colleagues and peers. It may be time to unpick these beliefs and negative feelings. It may be time to transform them so we are able to truly project ourselves with the authenticity we so love and admire in others. This will allow us to reclaim our power and positively impact our own mental and emotional health and wellbeing.
The journey of authenticity unlocks freedom and power in oneself.
As a leader, the deeper you connect with your authenticity, the greater you will be able to identify the traits in your team, business associates and clients.
Empowered Insights will build trust and confidence in your leadership skills which will positively impact you and your team. A team that values honesty and integrity to overcome challenges before they become problems.An environment that embodies a prospering and authentic culture, which which will enhance connection with your clients to create successful long lasting business relationships.
If this is something you would like to explore further in yourself, book a session with Empowered Insights today.